What Have I Learned Since 2020?

We are More resourceful than we think.

I’ve never seen people get that creative on ideas ranginf from homeschooling methods to decent toilet paper substitutes! (LOL).

We care about each other.

I’ve seen posts on various sites, about people helping people. Coming up with creative ways to help, to care, to share. Posts on different platforms, during the lock downs of people having block, dance parties, outside, on the street, sharing, connecting, caring. It, on many occasions, brought tears to my eyes.

We all have something to contribute.

All the tutorials that popped up online were incredible. I learned to cook different dishes from a 36 year old. People sharing recipes, sharing books they have read, different ways to do things. I saw people sharing on TikTok, on being positive and uplifting. It was truly amazing. I noticed that alot of people sharing, began to realize, “Hey, I can do this? I can share what I have learned.” With everyone cheering them on. LOVE IT!!

Isolation can create anxiety or depression.

About six weeks into the quarantine, I was experiencing insomnia. The “what-ifs” began taking over my thoughts . . .  especially at 3 a.m. What if life never returns to normal? What if my baby gets Covid? What if this is the end of the world? I would wake up every morning with a vague sense of dread. I was growing more miserable by the day. 

It wasn’t until I started connecting meaningfully with other people that I realized I’d been spending FAR too much time inside my own head. Getting outside of myself and investing in others was critical to managing my growing anxiety and depression. 

We need Healthy Coping Mechanisms

At first, the day-drinking memes were kinda funny. But after seeing that theme repeated across all platforms of social media for weeks on end, I got a little grossed out. Is this the best we can do? I thought. I’m not taking a stance on alcohol here. I’m taking a stance on our mental health. We need healthy ways to manage our disappointment, anxiety, and depression. Or risk exacerbating them all. 

Taking a Hike can be a good thing.

I’m not really an outdoorsy kind of gal. But when the only opportunity to get outside of your house is to walk around in the great outdoors, you do it. Imagine my surprise when I actually enjoyed it. Looked forward to it, even. At one point, my girls and I were taking walks two times a day. Without the distraction of a screen, we connected with each other and with the nature around us. 

Sometimes you need to call someone.

I’m of the mindset that if something can be said in ten paragraphs or less, it’s a text conversation. But after not hearing the voices of the people I care about for weeks, I needed something more. Once I started calling people on the phone, I realized how much more it means to talk instead of text. 

The internet isn’t evil.

Well, not all of the Internet is, anyway. It took my breath away when people and organizations began providing free content online to brighten someone else’s day. Museum tours, concerts, book readings, art tutorials . . . the Internet provided us with a vehicle to joy. 


I learned to stop asking my friends, “How are you today?” Because everyone was very not okay. When I learned to operate under that assumption, it helped me accept my own not-okaynessAlso, I learned to be more specific when checking in with others: “Did you sleep last night?” “Can I do anything for you today?” “On a scale of one to ten, how is your anxiety right now?” 

We need community.

If nothing else, I think we can all walk away from 2020 with a deeper understanding of our own vulnerabilities. And one, undeniable need is the one of community. It’s the feeling that we’re not the only ones struggling. It’s the feeling that we don’t have to walk through darkness or fear on our own. It’s knowing that when something happens, good or bad, we have someone to share that with. We all need community. We need it yesterday, today, and tomorrow. 

There is coming a, “MOVE”

I remember writing this several years ago, and it just seems to resonate in my spirit at the moment.

It was when a movie was getting ready to be released: “The Force Awakens”

There is coming a move – there is an awakening that is sweeping the world!

The Force of Light is awakening.  There is a stirring and there will be a new release!

There has been promise given, that some have not yet seen come to pass!  Well,

The time is now!  Don’t give up, don’t settle for less!  Allow our Creator to Awaken

Your Spirit!  The Force Awakens!

Grace has gone before us – fulfillment will be the filling – Grace will go behind us!

This is YOUR YEAR!  The Force AWAKENS!!

This is what I have been hearing for the past few days.

This fall a new Star Wars Movie is being Released. 

 Called, “The Force Awakens”

“I have it, my Father has it, My Sister has it, YOU HAVE THAT POWER TOO”

Out of that, Our Creator has been doing some fun downloads and quite honestly, MESSING ME UP!

There is change in the Air.

There is change in the air.

With the change of seasons comes a chance to try something different. Liberate your mind, your senses, and your spirit.

Try some self-directed outdoor meditation. Lie back and think of nothing for as long as it takes to relax.

Pick a day to check out an art gallery, a theatre or explore a part of town you have never been before.

It’s spring-cleaning time! When you remove distractions from your outside world, you clear your inner mind.

Get outside for a hike. See if you can get a friend to come along or create a spring playlist to rock out to!

Grab your favorite book and head outside to read it under the shade of a tree. Bring a blanket and a snack.

Choose a recipe and make a meal you’ve been wanting to try! Challenge: buy random ingredients and see what happens.

Take the opportunity to meet new people. Winter can be long when we’re inside a lot. Look for community classes to join.

Walk to work, school or your hobby. Give yourself enough time that you don’t get stressed out about timing.

Dress in bright colors. It’s easy to get caught up in wearing only black, but bright colors can brighten up your day.

Rearrange your space. Reorient your rooms to have more positive energies and to take advantage of the late-day sun.

Treat yourself to your favorite ice cream. Better yet, buy a container of it and share it with the people you love.

Leave your window open all night so you can fall asleep with fresh air on your face (before it gets too hot).

Enjoy the late afternoon sun and lounge outside with some friends and cold drinks on the patio.

Go to the park for a game of basketball, soccer, frisbee, or whatever your sport is.

Buy or pick yourself some fresh flowers. Nothing says spring like fresh cut flowers. 

Start a photo journal of all the beautiful things you see this season. Keep it for when the winter blues hit.

Fill a jug with freshly sliced lemons or cucumbers – a yummy and refreshing way to stay hydrated.

The next time spring showers hit, take time to sit and watch them with a warm drink. 

Disconnect from your technology. Explore who you are and what you want to do when you’re not plugged in. 

Try out bird watching. Even if the birds don’t keep your attention, the sun and the spring wind are beneficial. 

Go to a local sporting event. Get caught up in the excitement and cheer for your favorite team.

Join a running group, go online to find when classes begin and connect with others. 

Pick a night to sleep outdoors. Curl up and enjoy the warmth of the season rushing over you.

Head to the farmers’ market and buy some fresh local veggies for yourself and those you love. 

Start a little garden for yourself. Whether it’s veggies, herbs, or flowers, enjoy watching something you planted grow.

Set mini goals each day. If you have a springtime goal, work towards it slowly but surely. 

Go through your clothes and donate anything that doesn’t fit or make you happy. Put away your winter clothes.

Make yourself some Kool-Aid. Pro tip: freeze some to keep your drink cool without watering it down.

Plan a day entirely for yourself. Disconnect from others and connect with yourself while doing something you love. 

The Long Goodbye… :(

So, in recent months, we have seen the decline of my fathers memory and the ability to think through things quickly.  I can see it, and can hear it.  I can see it when he is around other people, and now, it seems to stress him out, as I can see that he is trying to remember people, names and events.  Most of the time, he just goes with the flow, but, can see the confusion on his face.  It is so difficult to see, because, my pops, has always been the loving one, the encourager, the singer, the one who was always happy and a genuine smile.  Now, that seems  to be going away.  It is hard to watch, I, and my sister feel so helpless right  now, and I talk to him and keep the conversation simple, to help him remember, and we laugh, but each time, afterward, I just breakdown, in my heart.  I break down.  I wish that he did not have to go through any of this.  He is 85 years old now, and has lived a great live  in our community in Southeast Alaska.  A great hunter, fisherman, guide, a loving father and husband, someone respected in our community.  One who trained many young people how to hunt and fish.  Always giving of himself.

It was a few months ago that the Doctor made the announcement that my pops has the early signs of Dementia.

What is Dementia?:

“Dementia is the loss of cognitive functioning — thinking, remembering, and reasoning — to such an extent that it interferes with a person’s daily life and activities. Some people with dementia cannot control their emotions, and their personalities may change.”

It hurts, it hurts so much.  You never wanted to see a loved one, especially a parent or child, lose their ability to think and remember.  It hurts.  To know that everyday, we seem to lose more and more of our pops.  It hurts.

I must pray and declare that God will help intervene and help my pops has a good rest of his life, as he walks this earth, one free of fear and one free of memory loss and pain.

Choose to day to, “Be Someone’s Cheerleader”


Focusing on the negative can consume you. Especially when you play the comparison game. It can dig deep, spring up bitterness, and give you every reason to hate everyone and all the things. Especially when you are consumed with all the ways your own life is failing you.

But one of the easiest ways to start to pull yourself out of a funk is to focus on all the other ways you can be someone else’s cheerleader. Making people happy makes me happy. It is in my DNA.

I work for smiles. And when I get one, I smile – because spreading happiness is always a thing and it is something this world could always use more of.

When you focus on your problems, it soon becomes an abyss that you cannot see your way out of. No one else exists – it is just you in this deep sea of negativity and that can be poisonous to relationships.

But when you make a choice to choose JOY and to spread it, you cannot help but be overwhelmed by that light.

So what does being a cheerleader mean?

1. You’re not first all the time.

You don’t have time to focus on your problems because you are too busy loving on someone else and encouraging them in their life journey. You are choosing to put someone else’s happiness above your own.

2. Celebrating success minus the envy. 

This can be a tough one. It’s about being genuinely happy for someone else’s success without worrying about your lot in life. You’ll get there. But in this moment, it’s about them – and all that they are doing for themselves and their family. It’s jumping up and down for the good they have without using it as an opportunity to introduce your own issues.

3. It is sometimes sacrificial.

You may not always feel up to it – you may not feel like you have the time. But being a true cheerleader means you show up, even if you don’t always feel like it. Being someone’s cheerleader means that for a moment, you step out of your corner and cheer on someone else.  It is sometimes sacrificial, but also intensely rewarding.

 It is not always easy to celebrate someone else – especially when you don’t feel like cheering. But over time, I have found that when you give good things out into the world and it will come back to you.

Being a cheerleader for others is not a replacement for self-love – it is in addition to, on top of, and wholly important to your development as a person in society. It is part of finding your purpose and in turn, a part of supporting yourself – you are finding your people, you are loving on them, and learning to put your own life into perspective.

Choosing to cheer someone else on is the recognition that someone else is just as valuable as you.

And when we begin to recognize and embrace that in others, we learn to how to better do that for ourselves.

Seeking, Locating and Walking in Peace

In Search of Tranquility

In Search of Tranquility
More than silence
More than peace
Soul and senses
Be still and calm
Storms and waves
Be still
Be calm
One focus
But be seen in anywhere
Everywhere, anywhere, no where
Still one focus
Flower blossoms and withers
Summer breeze and winter chill
Golden leaves
Green mountain
Stability and balance
Tranquility in mobility
In search of YOU
Tranquility in YOU

New Time, New Adventure

It would seem to be the word for me this year. “NEW”. It is like, all things for me this year. A very big year of change, and the thought crosses my mind, that, “Yes, change can be difficult, however, this time, my choice to live with all this change, has been very awesome! Scary at times, but still, good, none the less!” It has done my heart good, since October of 2021, with the change of region. Moving from the Pacific NW to NE Tennessee. This has been a very good change, the atmosphere, the area, the peace and quiet, and just how very nice the people are around here. It brings my heart back to the small town living that my sister and I were raised. People are friendly, courteous, respectful, honest and very nice. Heck, while driving down the road in our community here, people wave to you while you are driving by.

Love the area. The yes Ma’am’s and yes Sir. Is all just so very refreshing. This new change and all that was mentioned, is bringing some very needed healing to my scarred heart. More to come on that in another post.

Yes, going to really love being here. In the next few posts, going to be adding photos of the property, the house currently sits on 1.5 acres, and currently own the land next door, and plans are in the works to add a tiny home, that will be used as a secondary way to generate income, through AirBNB. The permits have all been secured, the ground breaking will begin in the next few weeks. Will keep photos going as the plan is to move forward with this part of the adventure. As stated before, photos and videos to follow. Also placing videos on my TikTok account. @Your_a_team, you should stop by and check it out.

Moving Forward / Chasing New Dreams

It has been a long while since a post has been created for this site. A great many things have happened in the past year and one half.

Last year, was head hunted by a small private jet aviation firm out of Carlsbad California, they hired me as a Private Aviation Sales, allowing me to work from my home office. That was a great experience, and business begin to take off, (as it were). Was there for just about one year and really enjoyed my time there. We only had two aircraft for charter, and were able to keep them both very busy.

However, given the state that my home was, was placing, a strangle hold on it’s people, and just could not deal with that any more, and seemed that the direction the leaders of that state was going, was going to create, nothing but chaos. So, the search for a new home began. Began by searching in North Carolina, then, stumbled on some very key points, that helped in making my decision to move. Points like, the state believes in our constitution and goes all out to protect the rights of her people. The property taxes, the cost of living, the freedom, jus to name a few. Made the decision in September of 2021, at the end of October, was on the road, heading to NE Tennessee. At the beginning of October, 2021 a very large private aviation company head hunted me, and we did an interview online, it was amazing. A company that has 80 private aircraft, based all over the country. Was very intrigued by the whole idea. The interview took place on Wednesday, and they told me they would contact me on the following Monday, as they ha other interviews to go through. Knew, in the back of my mind, that would be the case. However, on Friday, about 11:00 am PST, received a phone call from said company, and when viewed on my caller ID, my heart sort of sank, as calling me sooner than Monday, was probably not going to be good news. So, my heart braced for the worst, then, my, then, future boss, says, “Hi Alex, I am calling because……(pause), my heart sank,”. Then she says, we would like to offer you the position and here is what we can do for you. “WHEW!! “. Of course, the job was accepted. We nailed down a date for me to come to Ohio for training, and that would be right after the trip was made to Tennessee. Literally, three days after my arrival to my new home town. (More to come on this story later).

Needless to say, began a new journey, starting on new beginnings, have over 5 acres of property in Tennessee now, one plot houses the new home, and the other plot, looking to invest into. Tiny home, to rent out to Air BNB, more to come on this as it unfolds.

There really is a lot more to tell, but just getting back into my writing. Discovered that being out here in the very real country, the open air, the peace and quiet, is going to bring healing to my soul, and allowing our creator to heal places of my heart, that have been holding on to for way to long, things, that we are not designed to carry. And, as difficult as all that is, it is a very good thing.

Getting my passion for writing back, and actually picking up my guitar once again. There are some songs that were begun 3 years ago, that in my heart, just have to be completed. Well, need to sign off for the time being.

Will be back soon ya’ll !

2020 by Mitch Rossell

2020 by Mitch Rossel

I just love the lyrics to this song. So very tru in the world we live in today.

2020 by Mitch Rossell – Song Lyrics

Hey God, we need some help down here
The devil’s been a busy man, bullyin’ us all year
He’s spinnin’ lies, made us pick a side, now our fists are up
We’re headed down a path where a mask, can’t save usSo Lord I pray, with all my might

Help us see each other through your eyes
Let’s take the red, take the blue, wave the white, call a truce
Build a bridge across the line drawn through this country
Before hindsight’s 2020Hеy God, could you shine a light?
‘Cause it’s hard for love to grow in weeds this high
It’s gottеn dark, we need a spark, of your gospel truth

‘Cause in the end, we’re all the same even though we’re different too

So, Lord I pray, with all my might
Help us see each other through your eyes
Let’s take the red, take the blue, wave the white, call a truce
Build a bridge across the line drawn through this country
Before hindsight’s 2020Yeah, regret is closing in
We’ve had the milk and honey

We can get it back againSo Lord I pray, with all my might
Help us see eachother through your eyes
Let’s take the red, take the blue, wave the white, call a truce
Build a bridge across the line drawn through this country
Before hindsight’s 2020Hey God, we need some help down here

His Unfailing Presence

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Another Year I enter.

It’s History Unknown;

Oh, how my feet would tremble

to tread it’s path alone!

But, I have heard a whisper,

I know I shall be Blest;

“My Presence shall go with you,

and I will give you rest.”

What will the new year bring me?

I may not, must not know;

Will it be love and rapture,

or loneliness and woe?

Hush! Hush! I hear HIS Whisper;

I surely shall be Blest;

“My presence shall go with you,

and I will give you Rest.”

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