Sometimes faith isn’t about changing others—it’s about allowing ourselves to be changed.

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Faith, for me, isn’t about telling people what to believe. It’s about learning how to love people a little better.

There are some things in life that are difficult to explain without worrying that someone might misunderstand you.

For me, one of those things is my relationship with my Creator.

I don’t want to talk about it in a way that sounds preachy. I don’t want to stand on a soapbox and tell anyone what they should believe, how they should live, or what their relationship with God should look like.

That’s not my place.

What I can do is talk about my own journey.

Because the older I get, the more I realize that faith isn’t necessarily about having all the answers.

Sometimes it’s about having someone to turn to when you don’t.

A relationship, not a performance

My relationship with my Creator has become less about religion as a set of rules and more about relationship.

It’s about having someone to talk to when life gets heavy.

It’s about gratitude when things are going well.

It’s about asking for strength when I don’t feel particularly strong.

And sometimes, it’s simply about sitting quietly and trying to make sense of the world around me.

I have questions.

I have doubts.

I have days when I don’t understand why things happen the way they do.

I make mistakes.

I’ve said things I wish I hadn’t said. I’ve made decisions I would probably make differently today. I’ve disappointed people, and I’ve been disappointed by people.

In other words, I’m human.

And that’s one of the things my relationship with my Creator has taught me: I don’t have to pretend to be perfect.

I just have to keep trying to become better.

Seeing the person behind the behavior

Perhaps one of the greatest things my faith has taught me is to look at people differently.

We see someone’s behavior, but we rarely see the entire story behind it.

Someone may seem angry, but perhaps they’re hurting.

Someone may seem distant, but perhaps they’re exhausted.

Someone may seem difficult, but perhaps they’ve been carrying something for years that nobody knows about.

We don’t always know what another person is going through.

And I’ve learned that sometimes compassion begins simply by remembering that.

That doesn’t mean we excuse everything people do.

It doesn’t mean we allow ourselves to be mistreated.

It means we try to remember that there is a human being behind every story.

And every human being has worth.

Looking at myself first

My relationship with my Creator also reminds me that it’s easy to look outward and much harder to look inward.

It’s easy to see what someone else is doing wrong.

It’s much harder to ask myself where I might need to do better.

Am I being patient?

Am I listening?

Am I forgiving?

Am I treating people with dignity?

Am I helping someone who needs a little kindness?

Am I contributing something good to the world, or am I simply complaining about what’s wrong with it?

Those are harder questions.

And perhaps they’re more important than telling somebody else what they should believe.

I don’t have all the answers

I think sometimes we get the idea that having faith means we are supposed to have everything figured out.

I’m not sure that’s true.

Maybe faith sometimes means being willing to walk forward even when we don’t know exactly where the road is going.

Maybe it’s trusting that there is something bigger than ourselves.

Maybe it’s believing that our lives have meaning beyond what we can see.

And maybe it’s recognizing that we are still works in progress.

I know I am.

I’m still learning.

I’m still asking questions.

I’m still making mistakes.

I’m still trying to become the person I believe my Creator wants me to be.

And I suspect I’m going to be learning for the rest of my life.

What I hope my faith does in me

I don’t want my relationship with my Creator to make me judgmental.

I want it to make me kinder.

I don’t want it to make me think I’m better than someone else.

I want it to remind me that I am no better than anyone else.

I don’t want it to make me look down on people who believe differently.

I want it to help me respect them.

And I don’t want my faith to simply be something I talk about.

I want it to be something people can see in the way I treat them.

If I’m going to say that I believe in a Creator who cares about people, then I believe I have a responsibility to care about people too.

Not just the people who agree with me.

Not just the people who are easy to love.

People.

Especially when they’re hurting.

Maybe that’s what matters most

I’ve come to believe that we spend too much time trying to convince one another that we’re right.

Sometimes I wonder what would happen if we spent a little more time simply caring for one another.

What if we listened before responding?

What if we gave people the benefit of the doubt?

What if we checked on someone who seemed a little quieter than usual?

What if we forgave when we could?

What if we helped without needing recognition?

What if we remembered that every person we encounter is carrying a story?

I don’t know that my faith gives me all the answers.

But it does give me something to work toward.

It reminds me that my life isn’t just about me.

And if my relationship with my Creator can make me a little more compassionate, a little more patient, a little more forgiving, and a little more concerned about whether the person beside me is okay—

then I believe it’s doing something good in me.

I don’t need to tell you what you should believe.

I can only tell you what I believe.

And what I believe has taught me something very simple:

We’re all human. We’re all carrying something. And we all need a little grace along the way.

That’s where I am today.

Still learning.

Still growing.

Still asking questions.

Still trying to walk a little closer to the person I believe my Creator is calling me to become.

And maybe tomorrow, I’ll understand a little more than I do today.

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Notes From Alex

I don’t have all the answers. I don’t pretend to.

I’m simply a man trying to understand his Creator, understand himself, and understand the people around him a little better.

And along the way, I’m learning that sometimes the greatest expression of faith isn’t what we say.

It’s how we treat people.